DID YOU KNOW?
Did you know that romantic comedies could be ruining your love life? According to a UC Berkeley article, romantic comedies or rom-coms do not accurately portray real, healthy relationships. In exchange for acceptance, honesty and compromise, romantic comedy movies or rom-com animes tend to portray relationships as full of compliments, gift giving and affection. Hence, frequent viewers of romantic media content may believe three things: that they should change themselves or the relationship, that their partner should intuitively understand their needs and that their sex life should be perfect. The result of this belief is lower relationship satisfaction.
Perhaps you may have developed unrealistic expectations as well. There is no need to fear. You may still find your one true love by reflecting on a few key things. First, setting realistic expectations for your significant other as well as yourself. Second, you may want to reflect on these expectations and ask yourself ‘Does this matter to me or have I been told this matters?’ Lastly, you may want to identify what you need in a relationship rather than what you want. An article by UC Berkeley defines a need as something that fulfills one at a deep level and affects one’s quality of life. For example, you may not need your significant other to guess what you want but rather, feel the need to voice out your needs. Perhaps with these tips, you can reap the benefits of a long and healthy relationship all while watching your favorite romance anime or film with your loved one.